But that was nothing more than a blip in the road. Well, you must have been gay the whole time, some might think, and because of some religious shame, you decided to lie to yourself and experiment with a girl.
To this day, she and I joke about how she was the only girl I was ever in love with, and how I would’ve been quite happy marrying her.Īs a writer, this kind of complicated story is incredibly interesting to me – mostly because it shows that my own personal history resists the kind of easy classifications that have come to dominate discussions of sexuality. I even went so far as to fall in love with one. During that time, we both pal’d around with girls on the side. I came out at a conservative Christian college in the US and was in a gay relationship for around two years with a basketball player who ended up marrying a woman. My sexual journey through college was anything but run-of-the-mill. They weren’t subject to human imagination or experimentation – to the frustration of many sociologists, and kids, like myself, who found themselves inexplicably in bed with a player from the other team. If you happened to engage in activity that ran counter to your sexual identity, then you had two options: you were lying to yourself and everyone else, or you were just experimenting.
It was 2006, a full five years before Lady Gaga would set the Born This Way argument atop its unassailable cultural perch, but even then the popular understanding of orientation was that it was something you were born with, something you couldn’t change. You so obviously cannot be gay, was her implication, because this is good sex. Se圎D: “I Am A Homosexual.It wasn’t a command - it was a challenge. Because homosexuality is something you are born with, not something that is cultivated. If you support a meme that says vaping is gay, there has to be a reason why you giggle after reading it.įrom all the material I have read on it put on the internet, there were just memes in the name of justification, no real information.Įven if you do side by scientific research proclaiming that vaping makes you a homosexual, you know it is flawed science. The increasing threat is that people cannot even justify the views that they side by. The meme culture is as poisonous as smoking, to some extent. Should I just leave it at that? Homosexuality is apparently like cancer which you can catch if you smoke too much, at least this is what this study means to say. Scientists confirm the link between homosexuality and vaping. Just like gay people are made to exist at the periphery of society, so are people who vape from the group that smokes. At least that’s what they say – “men try the REAL thing.” (cyanide to your stereotypes, maybe? But that’s just an afterthought). Opting for vaping might throw you down that ladder of becoming/being an alpha male. Smoking is usually considered a hypermasculine activity. Though I can be wrong, but this argument seems too strong to be refuted. You must have heard people asking you to “man-up” or “be a man”.
Quite the same stereotype applied to the LGBTQ community.Īlso read: Do Abusive Relationships Happen Only In Heterosexual Relationships? It’s just to make you feel as if you are smoking when in reality you are not. Hence, vaping is not really smoking because it does not involve “real” cigarettes. Homosexual intercourse is not “real sex”.